Words by Caitriona Potter
It is that time of year again when our social media feeds are full of new year’s resolutions and goals, from waking up at 5am to running a marathon. It’s common to feel inspired or even pressured by these posts, as we can often mistake other people’s aspirations for our own if we are disconnected from ourselves. As the saying goes, you shouldn’t compare your chapter one to someone else’s chapter 30. Here is a simple guide to setting your own, authentic new year’s resolutions that fit into your life and take you to where you want to be.
Assess Your Current Routine.
From mental health, physical health, finances, relationships/ social life, creativity, spirituality etc. analyse and reflect on the past year, and notice how you feel about each area. Perhaps your physical health is thriving but you need to work on your relationships, or vice versa. This answer is unique to you and will highlight the areas you can work on, to have a more balanced and fulfilling life in more areas than one.
Prompts such as ‘What do I wish I did more/ less of in 2022?’, ‘In what ways have I changed from the start of 2022 to the end?’. Try to quiet the mind as you are doing this and let go of what you think you ‘should’ write. Allow the answers to come to you honestly and without judgement. This is a chance to strengthen your intuition and to realign with what matters to you. Use this information to decide what you will focus on in the new year, and what you can let go of.
Set Goals For Your Future Self.
Once you are satisfied with step 2 and you feel it is complete, you can move on to Future Self Journaling. Where do you want to be in 12 months from now? 6 months? 1 month? From there, break down the steps monthly, weekly, and daily. Visualise yourself completing the steps and achieving your goal. This should feel exciting and energising. Have fun with this exercise and repeat it often.
This practice helps you listen to yourself and discover your authentic goals, rather than adopting goals you think you ‘should’ have. This month, avoid seeking validation from others or comparing your goals to theirs. Other people can provide inspiration, but you know yourself best and the answers you get from exploring your own mind are likely to be the right ones. You can repeat this practice at any time of the year, but what better time than now to use the energy of a New Year to align with your authentic self and move forward with your aspirations.